I just returned to Santa Fe after a week in Oklahoma with my family to mark the passing and celebrate the life of a dear cousin, Jeff. For those not fortunate to get to know him, he excelled at bringing laughter and fun to any gathering. 'Passionate' and 'expressive' come easily to me when I think of my times with him. You know the type, but you don't know his circumstances. He was almost totally deaf from his earliest years, which proofed to not be his greatest challenge ironically after numerous serious health conditions and related surgeries. Yet, he was always eager to laugh and thinking of friends and family through it all.
Jeff's passing brings me to thinking of the merit of one's life. It was one hell of a great week with family and friends coming together warmly from all over the country. The merit is not the quantity, but rather the quality and caliber of people who showed up to mourn and celebrate him. I enjoyed a week of individuals who share his love of family, friends, laughter and making the most of it. I think this speaks volumes for Jeff and how to consider how one lives his life. In an age when people measure their worth by the quantity of "friends" they have in the virtual world of Facebook and the like, Jeff had the real deal hands-on with so many loving, appreciative and now missing-him family and friends.
What's your merit? What is the quality of life you bring to others?
If you don't like the feeling those questions bring, it's easy to turn it around.
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